Are you struggling with body image after birth?gigglyadmin
Don’t worry Mama! You are not alone.
According to a survey of 7000 moms with babies ranging in age from newborn to four, Babycenter discovered that a whopping 64% of them reported that their body image has gotten worse since the birth of their babies.www.babycenter.com
This is so sad really, because our bodies do so much for us. They expand and adapt to grow a human. They become soft to comfort and nurture that human, and we repay it with harsh judgments and criticisms.
How can we combat this? How can we learn to love the new version of ourselves?
Understandand accept that your body is doing what it’s supposed to do
It’s hard to watch your body change and grow in unexpected ways. It’s hard to get used to the idea that you are going to look different after baby in all of these weird and sometimes wonderful ways (hello boobs!), but your body is doing what comes naturally. Your body made a baby. That was no easy feat and now we need to nurture our bodies and ourselves.
Plan meals and stock healthy snacks
Food is fuel. You need it to keep up the energy required to take care of baby. It’s so tempting to rely on caffeine and sugar to get you through the rough spots… but those are short term solutions that most often come with a crash.
Making sure that you get the nutrients you need throughout the day will not only give you the energy you need to survive, but it will also help to combat cravings for the unhealthy snacks that keep you in an endless cycle of highs and lows. Focusing on making good food choices makes it easier to love ourselves without feeling guilt or shame.
Get rid of the scale
You don’t need it! Your doctor has one and that is the only place you need to step on it. Obsessing over numbers on a scale will only distract and frustrate you. You have other things to worry about, like feeding your baby and trying to take a shower. Keeping your focus on what is important will help distract you from the negative thoughts that creep in when we don’t like what we see on the scale.
Take care of your appearance (when you can!)
Get dressed, have a shower, wash and brush your hair. It’s amazing how just feeling clean and fresh can make you feel like a brand new woman, and it’s just as amazing how easy it is to stay in your pajamas all day.
Not taking care of ourselves in the same way that we were able to pre-baby also plays a role in these yucky feelings that can creep up. Finding ways to connect with the part of yourself that felt confident and sexy can help bridge the gap between then and now.
Every so often go the extra mile and put your makeup on. Even if it’s just for you and baby. Take some super cute Insta-worthy selfies, post ‘em up, and let all the likes speak for themselves. You are beautiful and you deserve to make yourself feel beautiful every so often.
Cut yourself some slack!
Baby Center’s survey also determined that 61% of new moms expect to be back to their pre-pregnancy weight within the first year… while about the same number reported that they were not.
You are doing great work, and you will get there, eventually. Have patience with yourself and talk to yourself like you would your best friend. You would never tell her that she needs to lose her baby weight in a set amount of time.
In fact, I’m guessing you would tell her she looks great and to take all the time she needs to focus on being healthy and raising a healthy babe. Be as kind to yourself as you would to her and you will be well on your way to feeling as great as you look.